The best advice I ever had

from Bob Thaves, the creator of  http://frankandernest.com/ – “Remember Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, but backwards and in high heels”.Loubbotin’s – I can dream

It has “inspired” me in a funny old way to believe that women are capable of greatness in any sphere, no matter the odds and obstacle course crafted by old school business thinking.

Perambulating to the office this morning, it led me to ponder other bits of sage advice and “life lessons” that I have garnered over the years. Mum said – if the label says dry-clean only, believe it (she was right, it took me a while to get it). My dad taught me to dance/love music and that knowing and loving sport if you’re a girl is quite acceptable and will probably help with boys (right again) 😉 . As a couple they taught me that I deserve the very best that life has to offer and that settling for less is really a waste of time.  Heartbreak taught me to trust my inner voice. Relationships taught me that even “nice” people can be really mean at times – it’s up to you how you deal with the problem and how much you’re prepared to put up with. I’ve learned to lock away the sadness and not let it rule my existence. 

Age taught me that being comfortable with yourself is paramount –

“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect . It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.” – Anon

That said, age has also slapped me around the head with the fact that I can still be afraid (even at my 40plus years) and there will be times when being alone in the dark is quite a scary thing. I’ve learnt that having a backbone and an opinion is a good thing and that glass ceilings are there to be broken through. I’ve learnt the fabulosness of true friendship and how rare it is.

Perhaps the most useful nugget that I’ve gleaned is not 18 carat in nature but the fact that just because I do things differently doesn’t make my way better or worse, it just makes me who I am. 

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8 thoughts on “The best advice I ever had

    • Right back at you Supa – trying to vote for your oxtail but the site is SOOOO slow, never say die though 😉 Happy days up the hill, we are boiling down in Durbs today 😦

  1. Lovely post 🙂 Love the shoes. I wish I had learnt as much as you. I would like to say that at a similar stage in life to you, I have become wise: but I am still lacking in that area. Maybe another 40 years will put it right.

  2. Hmm, I’m battling to believe that – in your writings you come across as a very centered “all together” woman. As someone who actually doesn’t really know you at all I’m going to say “trust and believe in Kate” – I think you’re a great asset 🙂

  3. To sound really cliche’d – wisdom comes with age! The ideal would be knowing what we do now 20 years ago 😉 Thanks so much for the visit and taking the time to comment.

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