Respect – plain and simple.
Respect for your partner’s needs, both mentally and physically. Not necessarily blind acceptance or even concurrence but respect.
The grass roots belief that another human being has the right to an opinion (even if diagonally opposite from yours), the right to feel and think and express their thoughts and that they have equal validity as yours.
This even keel outlook also provides one with the tools to realise that when this fundamental and integral ingredient is missing – change is paramount.
I harbour no illusions of being the consumate wife or having an idyllic marriage but we have been together for more than two decades and it is the exponential proliferation of “bad” marriages of late that has prompted me to ascend my soap box – yet again!