The rules of friendship

Are you your genuine self with your friends? Do you show every personal trait and preference in all their stark honesty or do you tend to wind it down a little and go with the flow?

The reason I pose the question relates to my best friend (do you get to have a best friend in your 40’s or is that more a juvenile thing – ok so very close friend) – she’s warm, caring, generous and a wonderful mom. We’ve known each other eight years and basically hit it off from day one. We have our differences (which is fun) and tend to thrash out anything that grinds, especially music related as her taste is dire 😉

There is one topic though that I stay away from, same sex couples. She is surprisingly biased which never ceases to amaze me for all the wrong reasons. Is there a single word that respectfully encompasses same sex couples? I’m stumped so for now will abbreviate it to s.s.c. Both my husband and I have s.s.c. friends and yet I find myself avoiding the topic when she and I chat and we do chat, a lot. Most times I just let the niggle go but some days I think should I tell her how I feel and to stop being such a blinkered bat and that (in my opinion) sexual orientation doesn’t influence the caliber of the person? Or should I weigh up her many good facets and just skip the “controversial” stuff?

My head tells me one thing and my heart tells me something else. It’s a head kind of day so I’m taking the cop out route, walking the more travelled path and avoiding the debate. I’ll deal with the drama on another day.

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6 thoughts on “The rules of friendship

  1. I’m friends with people of different politics from me. I try to be respectful of how they feel even though I don’t agree, and they generally afford me the same courtesy. We don’t talk politics, though, because it doesn’t go anywhere.

    • So true – talking politics is like bashing your head against a steel door :-O Apologies for my late reply – life keeps getting in the way of blogging! As always I’m so enjoying your daily blog offerings -Hope MTM had a good race today x

  2. Sometimes the only way to go forward without smudging a friendship is to tread lightly and agree to differ, even if she is of course completely wrong!

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